The Engagement Party

An engagement is definitely something to celebrate, and a party may be the perfect way for family and friends to toast the fortunate couple. Today's engagement parties may be as formal or informal as you like-and are by no means mandatory.



The Hosts:



The bride-to-be's parents usually host the engagement party, but any family or friend may do so. When families live in different parts of the country, the parents of the bride and groom might each host parties in their hometowns-alternative to the more traditional post honey-moon party given by the groom's family to honor their new daughter in law.



What kind of Party:



Cocktail parties and dinners are popular, but there is no standard party format. Sometimes, engagements are announced a surprise parties. From a casual brunch to a formal reception there are many possibilities. Whatever suits the couple and the guests is just fine.



The Guests:



Generally the guest list is limited to the couple;s relatives and good friends. It can be as short or as lengthy as you want and can comfortably accommodate. However it's poor taste to invite anyone to an engagement party who will not be on the wedding guest list.



Invitations:



Written or printed invitations are normally sent, but for an intimate gathering phoned invitations are acceptable.

The Announcement:

Whether the news will be a surprise or is already known among the guests, the host, usually the bride's father, traditionally makes the "Official" announcement and leads a toast to the couple.

Gifts and thanks:

If gifts are given by everyone, the couple might open them at the party, if there's time, and express their appreciation personally. Note however, that written thank-yous are required even if the couple has thanked the givers directly. Handwritten thank-yous are also a must if a couple receives gifts later, such as after an announcement appears in the newspaper.