Choosing attendants is easy-sisters, brothers, and dear friends. But if you have a large family or a wide circle of good friends, the decision can be challenging. Keep in mind that this is your wedding, you are not required to ask siblings, although it does facilitate family unity. You can choose one best friend over another to be maid of honor or best man, but you may risk causing a break that is difficult to mend.
I am happy that etiquette has kept up with the times, and today's couples have many options for organizing their wedding parties and choosing their attendants.
New Rules for Wedding Attendants
-There is no required number of attendants. The average number of attendants is four to six bridesmaids and at least as many groomsmen and ushers, but again it is your wedding and you can include as many or as few as you like. Some have a large number of attendants, but you can still have a formal wedding with just one or two attendants on each side and that would be perfectly acceptable. Since ushers have the responsibility of seating guests at the ceremony, the general rule to follow is one usher for every fifty guests. But again it is your wedding and you can have more if you want.
-You do not have to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen/ushers. Don't worry about pairing up. You can have more bridesmaids than groomsmen and visa versa. It is best not to alienate a good friend or family member for the sake of symmetry. One groomsmen can easily escort two bridesmaids in the recessional or bridesmaids can walk alone or in pairs.
-You can have two maids of honor, a maid and a matron of honor, or two best men. If you can't decide between siblings or very close friends have two. The attendants share duties- for example one maid of honor holds the groom's ring, while the other takes the bridal bouquet.
-Brides and grooms can have attendants of the opposite sex. Honor attendant is another, more modern term for attendant of the opposite sex. Today many brides and grooms seek to pay tribute to their closest friends or brothers and sisters by including them in the bridal party in this unique way. Honor attendants perform same duties as the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaid, or groomsman position. that they represent, although some responsibilities are obviously altered, a male honor attendant would not help the bride get dressed.
I will carry this blog entry into a part two and discuss the duties and responsibilities of each attendant. Remember to click on follow to become a follower of my blog.
Clay
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